Monday, January 7, 2013

Sharing about sharing...

My personal facebook status this morning:  How are you feeling, Di? Bloody stressed, facebook! How about you?

This morning just didn't work out as planned and I was left with the dilemma of taking Nick along to an appointment that had been made for Thomas. It bothered me that I wasn't able to devote some time to Thomas. For once, I wanted to be there for my big kid, without any distractions, without Nick. Oh the guilt of a mother!

However, something happened, something that stood out for me as a big WOW moment.

Bright Side of Life facebook status:  Due to unforeseen circumstances I had to take Nick along to a specialist appointment for Thomas. Nick was amazing.... For 45 minutes he sat through the waiting and the consult. He did not need ANY screen time! HUGE! :)

How far we have come.......



I have been berating myself for not doing enough with Nick during this holiday season (four weeks so far and another one to go). All those days and hours wasted! Too much screen time all round! Lost opportunities and missed interactions. Oh the guilt of a mother!

But...

The success of our above outing/appointment serves to remind me of all that we have achieved during the last few weeks. 

Bright Side status:  We are getting brave! Yesterday, we took Nick with us to visit friends and have lunch (I took food for him!). Tomorrow night, we are taking him with us to visit friends and have supper (I will take food for him!). #nonickysitter #throwninthedeepend #itsworkingoutwell

Bright Side status: Nick's new milestones for today: First ever late night out with the old's. Happily ate supper away from familiar surroundings. Very relaxed about missing normal bath time routine. #tiredbuthappymum

Bright Side status:  Nick on top of a mountain and wearing shades!! It was quite a business climbing over small rocks to get to the edge! Very proud of my boy! :)


Photo: Nick on top of a mountain and wearing shades!! It was quite a business climbing over small rocks to get to the edge! Very proud of my boy! :)

Bright Side status:  There has been a lot of exercise going on over the last few days!!

Photo: There has been a lot of exercise going on over the last few days!!

Bright Side status:  Hey, guess what....We are at a party (a very low key one!) AND Nick is with us!! Another first! Happy New Year to you all.

Bright Side status:  With a little help from the iPad, Nick made it until 10:30pm! He did great. :). Goodbye 2012. Hello 2013.

Photo: With a little help from the iPad, Nick made it until 10:30pm! He did great. :)
Goodbye 2012.
Hello 2013.

Bright Side Status:  Nick loves books! He is turning each page as I read the story. We pause a lot to make comments on what is happening in the story. Nick is very engaged and always keen to add his own opinion.


Bright Side status:  Nick coped well for about 20 minutes until a baby started crying... then he used his iPad. :)

Photo: Nick coped well for about 20 minutes until a baby started crying... then he used his iPad. :)

Bright Side Status:  We got seriously lost trying to find our friends house. I was muttering at the husband as we were over an hour late. Nick gets our attention.... he holds up his fists and makes the 'sign' for "cross". He then said... "Sh..it". Very appropriate! :) 
(NO STRESS FROM OUR NICK... VERY CHILLED BOY!)
 Photo: We got seriously lost trying to find our friends house. I was muttering at the husband as we were over an hour late. Nick gets our attention.... he holds up his fists and makes the 'sign' for "cross". He then said... "Sh..it". Very appropriate! :)

So, there we have it.... 

Our first ever *family* holiday season together, where we haven't had to make a plan for a Nickysitter!

As my husband said, "I feel normalized!"

~*~

I wish to thank Dr Gutstein, RDI and Kathy Darrow for empowering me as a parent and for guiding me on how to guide my boy. Nick may be severely autistic, however, the last two years have shown such wonderful progress. Onwards and upwards.

~*~

I don't generally post about Nick on my personal facebook page, however, I had to share the following.... 

 Thank you all for your wonderful support. xx


P.S. Thomas is fine... he just has to have four wisdom teeth out at some stage!




12 comments:

  1. So very exciting! You have a beautiful family! =)

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  2. @Daily Ramblings ~ Thank you and thanks also for stopping by. :)

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  3. So glad that your family is starting to feel " normalised" and looking forward to seeing the benefits of RDI here too!

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  4. Oh My Gosh Di this is truly beautiful!! ALl these pictures and togetherness....last year your pictures of the holidays were very different!! FANTASTIC!

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  5. Well, this is just the tonic as these holidays drag on! What a wonderful post (LOVE the captioned photos too!)and I'm so pleased for all of you, especially Nick! Did you see the link I put up the otehr day about keeping all the accomplishments in a jar? Nick's will be full to the brim by the end of the year!

    Also, Pudding is missing you, and wants to know when you're coming to Jozi, and so does her mummy! :)

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  6. Nick has had an amazing holiday of achievements, very exciting.

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  7. This was lovely to read...wonderful, a happy new year too you all

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  8. you gave me so much joy with this post
    Thank u
    he has come so far

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  9. Wow. This is incredible Di! So delighted for you all, what an achievement(s). Well done Nick, you're a wonderful kid :-)

    Love your photos and the captions!

    xx Jazzy

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  10. @Blue Sky ~ I am so excited for you and am looking forward to following your journey! :)

    @Kathy ~ Isn't it great? I used to really dread holidays... now I don't mind them at all!

    @Spectrummy Mummy ~ I didn't see the jar link, so went back through your old facebook posts. I LOVE and am definitely going to start a jar for Nick (and also for the kids at school). Please tell Pudding that I really miss her and Cubby and I WILL be making a plan to visit Jozi sometime during the year! :)

    @Jane ~ I know that you *get* all the progress and I am also enjoying reading about your teenager.

    @Þorgerður ~ Thank you so much. Happy New Year to you.

    @Floortime Lite Mama ~ You are too sweet... I wish we all lived in the same country! :)

    @Jazzy ~ I must admit that I am feeling very chuffed with progress. Holidays were always such a nightmare. Eeek, the photos.. I really do think that I am a closet scrapbooker! x

    Thank you all for your comments, much appreciated. xx

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  11. I love your virtual gratitude jar.

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  12. Walking, I never thought of that! A virtual gratitude jar is just perfect. Thank you. :)

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