Sunday, September 2, 2012


It's a new month and spring is in the air.  The year has just zipped by and I am shaking my head in disbelief that I am getting closer to 50. I don't feel old enough to have two teenagers. I am too young to have such noticeable grey hair, although I admit I can only see those wiry strands if I put my glasses on! Age gives me a reminder each time I try to apply eyeliner, time to invest in a magnifying mirror, me thinks! For the fun of it I googled grey hair and wrinkles. Look who appeared on the top line! :-)

I have removed the yummy picture of George Clooney!! :)

Age has also given me a deeper understanding of parenting, especially the parenting of a child with severe autism. In reality I shouldn't say that my son is severe and I really dislike the label 'low functioning' as it immediately lowers expectations. I need to change my mindset and start using the word *classic*.

I have discovered over the last couple of years that it is important for me to become more involved in guiding my boy. Yes, RDI has a huge hand in this and I am thankful that I have chosen this path. Each week brings about a special moment (or more) that is cause for celebration. The severity of my son's autism is decreasing.

For sure, it goes without saying that my son has many challengers. After all he attends a special needs school and has regular Speech Therapy, O.T and Physio? One of his favourite TV programs is Bananas in Pyjamas (yes, I know all the words of the song and I can sing it in an Aussie accent!). We still play chase down the corridor at bed time and he keeps asking for more. Not really appropriate for a boy of 13, but so what!

This year has been a learning experience for me in many ways. I like to think that I have become a better person. A person who has become more open minded and flexible in my approach to people and their beliefs. Even though I keep up to date with what is happing out there in the wider autism community, I chose not to involve myself in heavy duty autism discussions on the net. It is not worth the grief. My mantra is do not judge....

My boy continues to progress slowly but surely. He is an absolute delight and I know that I am incredibly fortunate to have such a gentle soul for a son. 

My latest facebook status comes to mind.... "I am outside the gate at Kids First (they don't know I am here). I can hear lots of laughter. Nick has a water blaster and is chasing the gang around the garden..... love it. :)". It is moments like these that make life worthwhile.



  1. I love how much joy can be found in the achievements of our kids. I am soooo proud of Nick.

  2. I'm definitely with you on staying out of the controversy and not judging....and the Bananas in Pyjamas video is a big favourite of my special girl xx

  3. I think "do not judge" is a great mantra to have and one I try hard to remember. When I find myself thinking about someone in a judgemental tone I remind myself that we do not know the truth of other peoples lives. As for grey hair. I am 35 and have the grey hair of a 60 year old, it is incredibly depressing and I try hard not to look in a mirror because of it.

  4. @anautismdad ~ Thanks, Hilary. It really is wonderful to see the progress and even those little moments are huge. :)

    @Looking for Blue Sky ~ Controversy is definitely the right word, it is scary how people can get so angry. I always think.. don't knock it if you haven't tried it! I find myself singing Bananas in Pyjamas in the car.. when I am alone!! Hee hee.. xx

    @Dearna ~ You are so right, we don't know what is happening in the lives of other people and it really isn't our business to make judgement on what they do. Wow, that is young for grey hair! You hide it well.

  5. I love your posts...;o) especially when starts "It's a new month and spring is in the air..." and the autumn is at the door here. It reminds me that somewhere is always a beginning...:o)

    As for the gray hair - I'm 38 - although my head thinks I'm in my early 20... - and I can measure how much my hair has grown by the gray ones in there... :o) So don't worry... my mantra is - you are old as much as you feel you are... You an I will never grow old, sweetie... :o)

    1. Thanks, Petra :)
      My head thinks that I am in my late 20's, although my body is telling me 55!! Thank goodness for fake hair colour! Wouldn't it be great if we never grow old. Hope the second day of school is going well for Patrik! x

  6. What a lovely positive post :-) You have a wonderful attitude, so you do. And 'do not judge' is a good mantra. As is 'do onto others...' and 'it's nice to be nice'

    Now,hurry up and come join me and Looking for Blue Sky and Midlife Singlemum in the #50club! It's FABULOUS.....we'll keep a place for you;-)

    xx Jazzy

    1. Hi Jazzy, I like the mantra's that you mentioned... perfect! Only another 18 months and I will be there! :-)

  7. Congratulations on your massive page view count! 18000 views is incredible. Not quite related to this post but it's great regardless.

    1. Thanks, Westie. I didn't even realise that you read my blog!


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