What did you just say?


We use a lot of repetitive language in our family. Sometimes, I feel as if we are on that ever revolving hamster wheel, endlessly repeating the same words or phrase......


We also use a lot of non verbal language. It may be an expressive shrug of the shoulders, the raising of eyebrows or the sign for "I am feeling cross". It might be the twinkle in my eye that tells Nick that I am about to chase him. It could be the way in which he adjusts his body to engage with me. Perhaps it is his teeth tapping together, to ask, "Where is dad?"  It is wonderful to be able to communicate in this way, but oh boy do we get some looks when out in public, especially when the same movement/sign is used again and again.

Nick makes the sign for “iPad”
I shake my head “no”
Nick makes the sign for “iPad”
I shake my head for “no”
5 minutes later
Nick makes the sign for “iPad”
I shake my head for “no”

I thought I would share some of our standard family comments, the ones that make us chuckle or say “oh my word, why does he keep doing that?”

“Don't touch your bum and then your lip with your finger, it looks weird!”
 (Not so cool when out in public!)

“Yes, you do need to wash your hands!”
(How many times do I have to say this?)

Please stop flapping my underarm.
 (I have to chuckle, otherwise I would cry with despair at growing old!)

The meaning of his wave depends on the situation; it could mean hello or goodbye, although at times it can also mean #@#@ off
 (This one gives me a good chuckle!)

“I am driving; keep your hands to yourself”
 (He will insist on touching my hand, then the gear stick, then my hand... one of these days I am going to follow through with my threat to put him in the back seat!)

“You have already had two biscuits!”
(Typical kid thing pushing his luck)

“Hey Nick, how ya doing, I haven't had a hug all day”
(Thomas)

“Oh boy he has got hold of the TV remote again”
(Shake head)

“Stop stimming on the TV”
 (Chuckling at his chuckles)

“Stop pulling on my face”
 (Thomas) 

“Ahhhhhh, family hug”
 (Ahhhh, sweet)

“Psssssssst, Nick.... stop scratching your *_____* in public”
 (Puberty is such fun, yeah right!!)

“Stop picking your nails”
(Sigh!)

“Dad is at work”
“Dad is at work”
“Dad is at work”

“Yes, we are going to fetch Thomas from school”

“We are going to ­­­­­______’s house then school”

“Chill Nick, it is only a fly!”

“The toilet door is ALREADY closed”
(As Nick heads back to check the door for the second time!)


My response to comments made by J. Public.

“Really, honey on his lips will make him talk?”

“You wouldn't be able to do it?”
(What makes you think that I can?)

“Thank you; sometimes I don't know how I do it either!”

“Yes, he continues to make progress”

“He is fine, thank you for asking”

“It's ok, he is just saying hello”
(But then again, he could be saying _____*fill in the blank*)

“Really, I am not special, really....”

“Don't worry, it's ok, you weren't to know that when the trolley went into the back of your foot, that my child has special needs!”

“Nope, he doesn't talk”
(Although I have heard that honey on his lips might to the trick!)
  

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The week that was......

Nick loves listening to music.....
For some strange reason, he will turn on the music and then take himself off to a completely different room and listen to it from a distance. The experience is even better if he has some cushions to burrow under!



Nick loves going in the swimming pool.....
He is very comfortable with Thomas and will happily go into the deep end of the pool, although he is attached to Thomas at all times. Nick's best moments are hanging on to the side of the pool and splashing his brother, me or his Dad. He finds it hilarious when Thomas retaliates and dumps huge amounts of water over him!



Nick loves going out in the car........
This kid of mine gets cabin fever. He is always happy to go out.... and as for me, any excuse for a cappuccino!

Nick loves the checkout queue at Woolworth's; the "next customer please" announcement cracks him up every time........
We have had some strange looks, some indulgent looks and some big smiles! Nick has the most infectious giggle and frankly, I don't care what people think! Although it has to be said, the people who give big smiles, get one back... from me! :)

Nick loves distracting me while I am having a conversation.....
patiently
he stands there waiting
reaching out his hand
to touch my arm
my face
internally he is stressed
picking at his nails

Gently 
he winds his arms around mine
softly 
distracting me
he pulls me along
away from the talking friend


I think that Nick loves being stubborn.......
He will purposely dig his heels in when he knows that I request his presence. Aha, but I am too clever for him ~ I stand there and wait. A year ago, I used to have to wait 15 minutes. Today, the longest I have to wait is one minute! Generally, he bounds off that sofa within a couple of seconds. Secretly, I enjoy his stubbornness; it means that he has a mind of his own.

I know that Nick loves school.....
He finds interaction with the other children difficult, however, over the years he has become much more accepting of them in his 'space'. Five years ago Nick would become very distressed if any of the children were upset. On Friday, I was amazed to see him sitting close to a little guy who was having a bad time. I am a little embarrassed to report that Nick was chuckling, although I assume it was because he found the noise stimulating. The picture below is not related to the distress/chuckling incident!



Nick loves our old/on its last legs laptop......
Sadly for him, it was beginning to drive me crazy. Think about it ~ could you listen to the same old Toy Story 30 second scene over and over and over? I lost the plot and made him pack it away into the cupboard. Before you say "mean mum", let me tell you that we set it up again this afternoon... BUT only for half an hour ~ How do you think I managed to find the time to write this post!

Nick loves his family.......
Without a doubt! :)

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